Zvidzidzo zvenguva Tsvaga Kukurukura Pakati Pakufara Uye Kuwana
College graduation speeches inouya muhurefu hwose uye mitambo. Zvimwe zvinoshamisa zvechokwadi, zvakawanda zvinokanganwa panguva iyoyo. Chinhu chimwe chaunogona kuverenga pakunzwa mune zvinyorwa zvose zvakadai ndeimwe chirevo cheiyo inonzi uchenjeri: "Tevera kurota kwako, nokuti mari haigoni kuita kuti ufare."
Munyori wezvehupfumi Michael Schramm, pachake mudzidzi wekoroji, ane dambudziko rechokwadi nemazano iwayo. Kubvunzurudza kwake kwenyaya iyoyo muHoney Magazine kunopa zvokudya zvakawanda zvekufunga semumwe wekorosi yekirasi inopinda mumusika webasa akatakura chikwereti chemudzidzi, uye mumwe anofungisisa kuti zvakanakire sei kushandisa mari yavo nguva nekuedza kwemakore mana anotevera.
Schramm inoti pfungwa yokuti mari haitengi kuwana mufaro, "hafu-chokwadi pane zvakanakisisa, nhema pane zvakaipa." Mukusangana kwake, mari uye mufaro zviri pedyo zvikuru. Schramm akakurira mumhuri umo kufanirwa kwemusha kwaiva kutyisidzira kwechokwadi, gomba rakakoromoka mudenga rakapera risina kubhadhara, uye kutengesa kwechingwa kuduku kunogona kukonzera kuchema, kukonzera kukakavara pamusoro pemari.
"Apo mabhiriji akasvika asingakwanisi kubhadharwa, mari yakava chigamba chakanditambudza," Schramm anoti.
Zvose izvo zvakachinja kuna Schramm paakagamuchira chikoro chekoroji uye chikwereti chakamubvumira kuti asangane nezvinodiwa zvake. Schramm akanzwa kushungurudzika kushambidza uye akakwanisa kuisa pfungwa kune zvimwe zvinhu kunze kwemari, iyo yaakazoona seshamwari, kwete chikara.
"Zvichitaura, mari yakawanda yakanditengera mufaro."
Shanduro yeSchramm inopfuura kungofanana neanecdotal. Anodzokorora zvidzidzo zvitsva zvinoratidza kuwirirana pakati pomufaro nemari - kusvika pane imwe nzvimbo.
Kushushikana kusina kunaka kunoderera pahuwandu husingaperi kusvikira mari inosvika $ 80,000, maererano nepeji yaJune 2016 kubva kuCatherine Western Reserve University. Aya manzwiro asina kunaka anotanga kudonha mberi sezvo mari inosvika $ 200,000. Chidzidzo chepasi rose neYunivhesiti yeMichigan chakawana kuti mari uye hupenyu hunosimuka pamwe chete.
Asi vadzidzi vachiri kuputirwa neshoko rokuti kuedza kuita hupenyu hwakanaka kunoisa munhu pangozi yekurarama hupenyu hwakashata, husina ruvara.
Schramm anofunga kuti izvi zvinotyisa. Anonyevera vadzidzi nevatsvaki vemabasa panzvimbo pacho kutsvaga kuenzanisa kwechokwadi pakati pekuzadzikiswa uye mari. Anovakurudzira kuti vanyatsofungisisa vasati vatsva kurota kana kushuva kuchavasiya vachirwisana nemitemo yavo.
"Kufara nebasa rako zvirokwazvo kunowedzera mufaro wako, asi izvozvo zvichadzikiswa kana zvishuvo zvako zvisingagoni kubhadhara zvekudya, mvura, pokugara uye zvinobatsira - kana iwe usingakwanise kuisa mari munyaya yekuchengetedza ... kana pane imwe nguva kubwinya hakusi kunze kwako kusvika. "
Schramm inokurudzira vadzidzi kutsvakurudza mabasa emabasa uye mihadhara mubasa ravo reroto uye nekunyatsoongorora kana vachigona kurarama hupenyu hwakanaka pane mari iyo. Kana zvisingaiti, anotaura, vanogona kufunga nezvemhando yekupikisana. Semuenzaniso, chigadziro chitsva mumashandisi emakombiyuta nechishuwo chekubatsira varombo vanogona kuzvipira kutarisa zvirongwa zvekurwisana neboka revarombo.
"Zvinogona kunge zvisingaiti sekuzadzisa sekutevera kurota kwako, asi heino chokwadi chakatarwa: Ichapa mufaro."
Kuzivisa: Iyi ruzivo rwakapiwa kwamuri senyanzvi yekutsvaga zvinyorwa chete.
Inenge ichitaurirwa pasina kufunga nezvezvinangwa zvekutsvaga, kushivirira kwekuisa mungozi kana mamiriro emari yemumwe muzvinabhizimisi chaiyo uye ingave isina kukodzera kune varairi vese. Basa rekare harisi kuratidza migumisiro yemangwana. Kuisa mari kunosanganisira njodzi dzinosanganisira kurasikirwa kwatinoitwa mukuru. Iyi ruzivo haruna kuitirwa, uye haufaniri kuita, inoumba chikonzero chikuru chekusarudza kwekutsvaga kwekutsvaga iwe waungaita. Nguva dzose bvunzurudza iwe pachako wepamutemo, mutero kana wekurima wekutsvaga wekutsvaga wekutsvaga kwekutsvaga iwe usati waita chero upi zvake wekutsvaga / mutero / nzvimbo / fungiro yekugadzira mari kana zvisarudzo